love, nicole

With eyes closed you could draw her smile or trace her eyes but you could never tell the story of her life.

You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you — it’s something inherent.

You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.

—Daniell Koepke   (via elauxe)

(Source: internal-acceptance-movement, via elauxe)

I am no expert on love,
But I have a few suggestions to keeping your love alive.
1- Don’t fall asleep angry. But if you do, wake up in the middle of the night and hold her as close as you can.
2- Laugh during sex, especially if you bump heads. If you aren’t laughing, you’re with the wrong person.
3- If you don’t feel comfortable dancing naked with your partner and showing them your four chins when you laugh, you’re doing it wrong.
4- Romance isn’t for everyone, but a post-it note in their lunchbox telling them they’re the best will never go amiss.
5- Don’t cling to them at parties. Dance with friends and spend time with acquaintances, but wink at each other across the room.
6- Keep everything 50/50, or you will fall out of balance.
7- Stop comparing your relationship to others- you are you, don’t try to be someone else.
8- Be kind. Give them space when they need it, but be their home when they come back.
9- Be proud to love them.
10- Support them through whatever they do in life, even if it’s a stupid decision. People need to make their own mistakes, but be there if it falls apart, and never say ‘I told you so’.
And most of all, love with your whole heart, or don’t love at all.

My philosophy is: It’s none of my business what people say of me, and think of me. I am what I am, and I do what I do. I expect nothing, and accept everything. And it makes life so much easier.

Anthony Hopkins  (via cultivate-solitude)

(Source: emotional-algebra, via elauxe)

Be humble, but don’t shrink yourself down to the bone. Be brave. Be kind. Be understanding. There’s a lot ahead of you. Use your head alongside your heart. Be kind. Be mindful of the way you speak to others and the impact you have on their lives. Be kind. Everyone is fighting a hard battle. Be kind. And don’t be ashamed to color outside the lines.

—"Advice For My 10 Year Old Self", Keaton Webb (via theriverjordyn)

(Source: theboyiswild, via theriverjordyn)

How good would you have to be to feel good enough? How successful, strong, wealthy, intelligent, motivated, attractive, kind? Be honest, would it ever be enough? You have to start cutting yourself some slack and realizing that you’re holding yourself to impossible standards and your judgement of yourself is simply not accurate.